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Selflessness & Compassion
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Selflessness & Compassion

Calm yourself by having compassion for others.

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[Kelly Boys, Mindfulness Trainer] Do you ever feel kind of selfish? Like, you're pretty consistently turning the attention back to yourself and your own needs and desires and wants? Well, that's natural because we wanna survive and do well and thrive. And what would it be like to also place the attention on others? So in this verse, this is from the Christian New Testament. Let's explore a little bit. Philippians 2:1-5. "If you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any fellowship with the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and purpose. Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests but also to the interests of others." I like that part of the verse, if you have any tenderness and compassion, then look not only to your own interests but also to the interests of others. So it's the comfort that we receive from divine love that allows us to actually turn our gaze toward others and see what their needs are. And when we're united in purpose in a community, then we can actually hold these values of compassion, of selflessness, of love, of humility. And that then when we're in a community, we're doing that for others and others are doing that for us and we're doing it for themselves and others are doing it for themselves. It's a symbiotic kind of a relationship where when you're holding others' interests, quote, higher than yourself, meaning that you're looking out for others as much, if not more, than you're looking out for yourself, our communities change. One of the really quick ways to help yourself be selfless and look towards others' needs is to see that you're not better than someone else. That's kind of a really big hack for some of us who might carry a sense of inflated self-esteem. Or even if you have a deflated self-esteem, you can bring yourself up to the same level as others, and see that we're all human, we're all in this together. And everyone is doing the best that they know how given their psychological conditioning, given their resources, given their history. And so we can cut each other some slack and be selfless and humble before each other. What would that be like instead of this kind of attack mode that can happen online and in schools and other places? What would it be like to hold each other in high esteem? Let's do a mindful reflection. Okay. So wherever you are, feel free to take a moment, close your eyes. You can have your eyes open, if you'd like. The reflection is, where can you look to the interests of others today? So perhaps that's offering a listening ear without needing to give advice. Maybe that's giving compassion to someone who's suffering, like with a gift or a note or a phone call. Maybe that's seeing someone with a different point of view, as an intrinsically valuable human being. So as you go throughout your day, the invitation is, how would it be if you saw someone else on the street as intrinsically valuable and gave them from your heart this kind of unconditional positive regard? Just check and see what happens. The world reflects that back to you when you do it. Thanks for being with me.

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