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Saying No: Part 3
Sade Jones
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Saying No: Part 3
Saying No: Part 3
Sade Jones • 04:23

Saying no is typically met with hesitation and regret. We try to strike a balance between our responsibilities, our desire to please others, and our worry about what could happen if we refuse their demands. But we often overlook the fact that declining an invitation has a strong spiritual component. It's a way to value oneself, take care of oneself, and grow as a person. 

The foundation of many spiritual teachings is the understanding that we are connected to a higher power. We appreciate this connection and acknowledge that our value is not just dependent on our ability to meet others' expectations. When we decide to prioritize our needs for self-care and personal development, saying no becomes a faith-based decision. It becomes an opportunity for us to deepen our spiritual connections and give ourselves over to a greater life purpose.

Saying no is not being selfless or breaking our obligations. It is a brave act of moral uplift, self-defense, and self-care. By learning to accept the power of saying no, we establish a foundation of self-worth, establish healthy boundaries, and enhance our connection to the greater power. Remember that by saying no to someone else, we are actually affirming our own well-being, harmony, and peace. Embrace the transforming power of this practice, and observe as it leads to spiritual growth, resiliency, and a revitalized sense of mission.


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So now I wanna dig into the spiritual aspect of no. No is beautiful, no is healing, and no is also a complete sentence. Okay, I might be getting ahead of myself with that one. If telling someone no without an explanation feels too intense to start, you can always go with a kind but gentle no. For example, if someone wants to hop on a phone call with you after a long day and you simply don't have the energy, instead of just saying no, you can do a gentle no. For example, "Hey, I'm so happy you had a great day and I'd love to hear about it, but no, I've had a long day, and I wouldn't be able to give you my best at this moment. Let's reschedule." Boom, you said no gently and with ease. You put yourself first, and that's beautiful. So how does this come into play spiritually? In order to give the way God intended us to, we need to be able to love ourselves first. You can't take the speck out of your brother's eye until we take the plank out of our own eye, right? We all know that one. That right there is God telling us to put ourselves first. That's self-care. That's how I perceive it anyway. So saying no is self-care. It takes discipline, courage, and grace. When you say no to something, you say yes to yourself. How does it feel to say yes to yourself? Does putting yourself first make you feel aligned? How can saying no make you feel connected to the higher power? In what ways do you feel supported by God when you set a boundary with others? Repeat these five affirmations. I am comfortable saying no to others without guilt. I'm confident in my ability to say no. I'm supported by the higher power to love myself. Saying no is becoming easier. I am transforming into someone who is confident and firm, yet gentle with others.

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Saying No: Part 3
Saying No: Part 3
Sade Jones • 04:23

Saying no is typically met with hesitation and regret. We try to strike a balance between our responsibilities, our desire to please others, and our worry about what could happen if we refuse their demands. But we often overlook the fact that declining an invitation has a strong spiritual component. It's a way to value oneself, take care of oneself, and grow as a person. 

The foundation of many spiritual teachings is the understanding that we are connected to a higher power. We appreciate this connection and acknowledge that our value is not just dependent on our ability to meet others' expectations. When we decide to prioritize our needs for self-care and personal development, saying no becomes a faith-based decision. It becomes an opportunity for us to deepen our spiritual connections and give ourselves over to a greater life purpose.

Saying no is not being selfless or breaking our obligations. It is a brave act of moral uplift, self-defense, and self-care. By learning to accept the power of saying no, we establish a foundation of self-worth, establish healthy boundaries, and enhance our connection to the greater power. Remember that by saying no to someone else, we are actually affirming our own well-being, harmony, and peace. Embrace the transforming power of this practice, and observe as it leads to spiritual growth, resiliency, and a revitalized sense of mission.


View Transcript
So now I wanna dig into the spiritual aspect of no. No is beautiful, no is healing, and no is also a complete sentence. Okay, I might be getting ahead of myself with that one. If telling someone no without an explanation feels too intense to start, you can always go with a kind but gentle no. For example, if someone wants to hop on a phone call with you after a long day and you simply don't have the energy, instead of just saying no, you can do a gentle no. For example, "Hey, I'm so happy you had a great day and I'd love to hear about it, but no, I've had a long day, and I wouldn't be able to give you my best at this moment. Let's reschedule." Boom, you said no gently and with ease. You put yourself first, and that's beautiful. So how does this come into play spiritually? In order to give the way God intended us to, we need to be able to love ourselves first. You can't take the speck out of your brother's eye until we take the plank out of our own eye, right? We all know that one. That right there is God telling us to put ourselves first. That's self-care. That's how I perceive it anyway. So saying no is self-care. It takes discipline, courage, and grace. When you say no to something, you say yes to yourself. How does it feel to say yes to yourself? Does putting yourself first make you feel aligned? How can saying no make you feel connected to the higher power? In what ways do you feel supported by God when you set a boundary with others? Repeat these five affirmations. I am comfortable saying no to others without guilt. I'm confident in my ability to say no. I'm supported by the higher power to love myself. Saying no is becoming easier. I am transforming into someone who is confident and firm, yet gentle with others.


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